Ask questions. Listen. Learn. Analyze. Connect. Then ask more questions.
Do so with careful thought and humility. Know that you don’t know everything.
It’s even okay to not know what you don’t know. Just ask, absorb, and analyze until things make sense. If you ask considerately, people will be thrilled to share their knowledge.
When you did something spectacular, treat yourself.
When you impress yourself, treat yourself.
When you do what you can’t, treat yourself.
That’s how you motivate yourself to push harder next time.
The famous Winston Churchill once said,
Those who fail to plan plan to fail.
I take this quote to heart. When I know I have a responsibility to fill, I plan and prepare ahead of time. When I am building a running habit, I pack my workout gear the night before. The night before my first day of work, I prepared my bag with important documents and made sure I had an idea of where and when I needed to show up. When I had my salary negotiation, I wrote and practiced a script the morning of, as well as made sure I got advice from three specific people.
All these ways of preparation have set me up for success. It always me to take action and follow through when my brain gets too lazy or emotional to make a productive decision. It provides buffer time when unexpected events happen when I’m running out the door a few minutes late.
Failing to plan is planning to fail, but preparation yields success.
Like many others, being with my family is one of my top priorities. I am convinced that I am able to reach my level of security and growth in my career because I have such a strong foundation. My family provides me with mental and emotional support that has been built in for years. It is when buildings have a strong foundation when they can rise with the ability to weather the strongest of earthquakes.
Surround yourself with people like these.
If you are experiencing hardships, do the harder thing: believe that life will get better. It will. Much like the economy, life is a continuous series of peaks and troughs. However, do not blindly believe in improvement. Put in the work to make it happen.
Life gets better when you get better.
In your greatest victories, remember the people who helped pave your way, the people who supported you, the people who cared enough to listen and nurture you in your trying moments.
Remember them, return the favor, and pay it forward.
This is how you stay grounded.
The universe has a funny way of teaching. It’s playful and loves to test us. It wants to see how strong we are mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It puts us through a series of unfortunate events to see what we will make of it. It asks, “Can s/he rise to the occasion?”
The universe doesn’t do this out of malice but from a place of tough love.
Think about it.
If your life were easy, how else are you going to get stronger?
Trudge forward. The universe grants mercy in our darkest moments. The moments when we encounter that fork in the road when we must decide to give up or push forward. Just after that decision, the world will reward you for your trials and tribulations. That is, if you choose wisely.
When the universe is testing you, keep moving forward and you will be rewarded.