There is a natural ebb and flow of life. One week you’re on it – crossing out everything on your to-do list, excelling at work, hitting the gym, eating more green foods…and then the next week, you’re the opposite. Accepting this natural twist of events is the first step to limiting the turbulence. Allowing yourself to live between the two states is giving yourself permission to live the natural cycles of life.
Once you’ve accepted this concept, then you can start laying a healthier foundation, stronger groundwork, to control what you can in midst of the chaos.
I was on a hiatus from this website. Since I last posted, I’ve assumed new roles at work, stronger relationships, and memories that’ll last a lifetime.
Now I’m back stronger and more me than ever before. Let’s get back into it.
To live at the mercy of notifications.
Unplug and be free.
The famous Winston Churchill once said,
Those who fail to plan plan to fail.
I take this quote to heart. When I know I have a responsibility to fill, I plan and prepare ahead of time. When I am building a running habit, I pack my workout gear the night before. The night before my first day of work, I prepared my bag with important documents and made sure I had an idea of where and when I needed to show up. When I had my salary negotiation, I wrote and practiced a script the morning of, as well as made sure I got advice from three specific people.
All these ways of preparation have set me up for success. It always me to take action and follow through when my brain gets too lazy or emotional to make a productive decision. It provides buffer time when unexpected events happen when I’m running out the door a few minutes late.
Failing to plan is planning to fail, but preparation yields success.
In your greatest victories, remember the people who helped pave your way, the people who supported you, the people who cared enough to listen and nurture you in your trying moments.
Remember them, return the favor, and pay it forward.
This is how you stay grounded.
Mistakes take us to the next level. They teach us what we should and should not do. They help us refine our strategies and do better the next time around.
When mistakes arise, forgive yourself. If you are establishing a habit and you miss a day or two, accept the loss, acknowledge it, and refine your strategy so it doesn’t happen again.
Dare to fail. There is a lesson in every failure.
Fail fast, learn faster.
The only rule to follow when it comes to mistakes is:
Don’t make the same mistake twice.
Within my friends groups, I’m notorious for getting into crazy situations. The reason is, I am a yas woman. If I get into a situation where I must choose to stay or go, I choose go as much as possible (that is, if my intuition tells me I am not in danger).
Saying yes has led to stand-up paddle boarding in the San Francisco Bay, cooking delicious meals with a stranger, grabbing dessert with a “boss ass bitch”, endless nights of dancing, multiple concerts, tours at amazing companies, unbelievable sunset views, and so much more.
Today’s example: I was running through Lake Merritt after my MLK volunteer event and ran into Anthony and his old coworker Nathan. Ant invited me to eat pho for dinner later that night. I gladly accepted the invitation. After dinner, the three of us went to (my first) comedy event at a bar I’ve been meaning to try. I laughed for two hours straight. The lineup was stellar, and the venue was extremely hip. Now, I am exhausted and do not want to talk to anyone, but I am so happy I went. I will definitely come back for Monday night comedy.
Say yes, because why not.
Many of my most memorable moments stemmed from moments of spontaneity.
How could it not when you’re open to what the world has to offer?
I once told my friend that “Wrong turns make great stories.”
She responded, “If you live to tell the tale.”
There is great value in doing the thing you’ve always wanted to do, in exploring your curiosities, in taking risks and leaps. It makes you that much more interesting.