Like many others, being with my family is one of my top priorities. I am convinced that I am able to reach my level of security and growth in my career because I have such a strong foundation. My family provides me with mental and emotional support that has been built in for years. It is when buildings have a strong foundation when they can rise with the ability to weather the strongest of earthquakes.
Surround yourself with people like these.
How do you create a fulfilling life?
By the decisions you make. Big or small. All your decisions culminate to influence the paths you take in life.
Make decisions wisely.
My decision-making process:
If it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a no. No in-between.
The universe has a funny way of teaching. It’s playful and loves to test us. It wants to see how strong we are mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It puts us through a series of unfortunate events to see what we will make of it. It asks, “Can s/he rise to the occasion?”
The universe doesn’t do this out of malice but from a place of tough love.
Think about it.
If your life were easy, how else are you going to get stronger?
Trudge forward. The universe grants mercy in our darkest moments. The moments when we encounter that fork in the road when we must decide to give up or push forward. Just after that decision, the world will reward you for your trials and tribulations. That is, if you choose wisely.
When the universe is testing you, keep moving forward and you will be rewarded.
I tend to get overly excited about many things. Long waits are agonizing, as the anticipation gnaws at my soul and my colorful imagination paints my thoughts. I often have to remind myself to slow down. My friend Galen reminded me yesterday,
“Don’t rush anything. Just enjoy.”
As the best things take time to develop, it is important that we allow events to unfold naturally. (Definitely a test for an impatient person like myself…but it is for the best.)
Within my friends groups, I’m notorious for getting into crazy situations. The reason is, I am a yas woman. If I get into a situation where I must choose to stay or go, I choose go as much as possible (that is, if my intuition tells me I am not in danger).
Saying yes has led to stand-up paddle boarding in the San Francisco Bay, cooking delicious meals with a stranger, grabbing dessert with a “boss ass bitch”, endless nights of dancing, multiple concerts, tours at amazing companies, unbelievable sunset views, and so much more.
Today’s example: I was running through Lake Merritt after my MLK volunteer event and ran into Anthony and his old coworker Nathan. Ant invited me to eat pho for dinner later that night. I gladly accepted the invitation. After dinner, the three of us went to (my first) comedy event at a bar I’ve been meaning to try. I laughed for two hours straight. The lineup was stellar, and the venue was extremely hip. Now, I am exhausted and do not want to talk to anyone, but I am so happy I went. I will definitely come back for Monday night comedy.
Say yes, because why not.
Many of my most memorable moments stemmed from moments of spontaneity.
How could it not when you’re open to what the world has to offer?
I once told my friend that “Wrong turns make great stories.”
She responded, “If you live to tell the tale.”
There is great value in doing the thing you’ve always wanted to do, in exploring your curiosities, in taking risks and leaps. It makes you that much more interesting.
It’s heart-wrenching, how one song can transport you back to the moment of great euphoria or pain. How a song can make you feel so alive or so alone. The power that music has in triggering memories is instantaneous. It makes you realize that both pain and pleasure are pervasive as long as you’re aware enough to see it.
It’s how you deal with it that defines who you are.