“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours. It is an amazing journey, and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
– Bob Moawad
When you choose to uphold your independence, you begin to live a different life. You begin to feel more powerful as you make decisions on your behalf for your own welfare. You enjoy your own presence, look forward to alone time, and possibly prefer it most nights. You do whatever you want without supervision and craft your own life.
Independence includes externally from parents, partners, and toxic relationships. It also means internally from your inner demons.
Once you own your worth, you become free to live to the fullest at the highest frequency.
Only you can fully understand you.
There is simultaneous melancholy and joy in this statement.
Melancholy because you will never be entirely understood. No one will know all parts of you. Even if you try to expose someone to the various facets of your life, only you will fully experience the life you live. On that vein, expecting someone else to fully understand you is ludicrous.
But there is also great joy in knowing that you are your own. Joy in the sense that you have complete independence. You are the owner, the driver, and the purveyor of your own happiness. Hold this with a sense of pride.
Technology is both polarizing and powerful.
Polarizing because of its ability to automate. Some people are thrilled at technological advancements as it can improve processes and allow us to focus on what cannot be automated. For example, by allowing systems to take over reoccurring tasks, we can shift our focus on exercising our soft skills such as building relationships. Others are upset about the idea of “robots” taking over their jobs and pushing them out of the workforce. Suddenly, technical skills become obsolete.
I have noticed that one’s opinion towards technology is parallel to one’s ability to handle change. Technology is always shifting and advancing making it difficult for people to keep up. Either you adapt to find tomorrow’s solutions or get stuck with yesterday’s problems. Adopting technology that is most suitable to your needs can simply change your life. It goes without saying that, like all things, technology has its downsides. However, it is apparent that it has the ability to shape our daily lives.
When someone says that something is “better”, question it.
Better how? Elaborate. Describe what you are thinking, feeling, working towards.
Continuous improvement is easier when it is measurable, strategic, and practical. The more detailed the visual is in your mind, the more likely you are to achieve it.
When you want to reach the next level, you need to gain a new set of skills. You need to learn more and rise to the occasion. They call it “level UP” of a reason.
You need to be a new you to reach the next level.
Ask questions. Listen. Learn. Analyze. Connect. Then ask more questions.
Do so with careful thought and humility. Know that you don’t know everything.
It’s even okay to not know what you don’t know. Just ask, absorb, and analyze until things make sense. If you ask considerately, people will be thrilled to share their knowledge.
The famous Winston Churchill once said,
Those who fail to plan plan to fail.
I take this quote to heart. When I know I have a responsibility to fill, I plan and prepare ahead of time. When I am building a running habit, I pack my workout gear the night before. The night before my first day of work, I prepared my bag with important documents and made sure I had an idea of where and when I needed to show up. When I had my salary negotiation, I wrote and practiced a script the morning of, as well as made sure I got advice from three specific people.
All these ways of preparation have set me up for success. It always me to take action and follow through when my brain gets too lazy or emotional to make a productive decision. It provides buffer time when unexpected events happen when I’m running out the door a few minutes late.
Failing to plan is planning to fail, but preparation yields success.